is the basic philosophy of coaching?
put, that we humans are great, that we're all discovering what we really want
and that we can get what we want--faster and easier--by having a coach who's been
trained to help us.
Coaching involves helping
another person identify and take action toward centrally important professional
and/or personal goals. Coaching presumes one is doing many things well and now
wants to do even better.
hires a coach and why?
Have you ever wished for someone who would unconditionally support
you and encourage you to celebrate each success - no matter how seemingly small?
Would you like to have someone hold you accountable so you move forward on your
dreams? Could you benefit from speaking regularly with someone who will give you
an honest, objective opinion and will help you look at life in a new way? Then
you've been wanting a coach!
Coaching can help you take strategic steps from where you are now
to where you want to be.
hire a coach because
They want simplicity.
They want to grow.
They want a richer, more satisfying life.
need help actually reaching these goals--at home, at work, in relationships,
as simple as that. Coaches help a client get all three. Quickly.
happens when you hire a coach?
things, but the most important are:
You take yourself more seriously.
You take more effective and focused actions immediately.
You stop putting up with what is dragging you down.
You create momentum so it's easier to get results.
You set better goals that you might not have without the coach.
the coach work on personal goals or business/professional goals?
actually. And, with the line between personal and business life blurring in the
New Millenium, the coach is the only professional trained to coach all aspects of you.
does the coach focus with an average client?
focus where the client needs us most. And, we tend to weave in the following
Getting the client's Personal Foundation strengthened.
Helping the client beef up their personal Reserve.
Helping the client set goals based on their Personal Values.
including these with what the client wants from us, we help the client have
fewer problems and focus on what's going to make them the most successful. We've
found that clients really enjoy the approach.
does coaching work?
works for several reasons:
Synergy between the coach and client creates momentum.
Better goals are set -- those that naturally pull the client toward
the goal rather than goals that require the client to push themselves to the
The client develops new skills, and these skills translate into more
is coaching becoming so popular?
is becoming popular for several reasons:
Many people are tired of doing what they "should" do and
are ready to do something special and meaningful for the rest of their
lives. Problem is, many can't see it, or if they can, they can't see a way
to reorient their life around it. A coach can help them do both.
People are realizing how simple it can be to accomplish something
that several years ago might have felt out of reach or like a pipedream. A
coach is not a miracle worker (well, they are, sometimes) but a coach does
have a large tool kit to help the Big Idea become a Reality. Fortunately,
people now have time and resources to invest in themselves in this kind of
Spirituality. If you've tracked the phenomenal success of James
Redfield's Celestine Prophecy on the NY Times best-seller list since 1994,
you get a sense of just how many people are willing to look at, and
consider, the notion of spirituality. Wow. Many coaches are spiritually
based -- even the ones who coach IBM and AT&T. America is getting
spiritual quickly. (Our working definition of spirituality? How connected
you are with yourself and others.") The coach helps the clients to tune
in better to themselves and others.
give me some context about coaching...
personal coach does just what an athletic coach or music teacher does, only in a
more complete and bigger way. A coach challenges you and takes the time to find
out what 'winning in life' means to you. A coach is your partner in living the
life you know you can accomplish, personally and professionally. A coach is
someone to hold you accountable for your life, to make sure you really do live
up to your potential.
matter where you are in life, there is always a desire for more. More success,
more money, closer relationships, a deeper feeling of meaning in life, etc. It
is the nature of people to want to attain more, become more, be more, and we all
struggle with how to get what we're looking for.
people believe that "hard work and doing it on your own" are the keys
to finding the life, success, money, or happiness that they seek. They believe
that a price must be paid to attain what they want, and often that price is poor
health, not having enough time to enjoy life, strained family relationships or
lessened productivity. The saddest part is that, even though this effort may
result in more of something, it is often not the something you had in mind, and
you are back where you started, or worse, further from your real intentions.
and performers know about this trap. They know they need someone else, a trained
someone else to help them set goals, discover real needs, and work effectively
toward ultimate goals of excellence. So, they are willing to hire a coach or a
teacher. No serious athlete or musician would expect to progress very far
about people who are already doing great in their lives. Why would they need a
might not need a coach. But it is helpful to find out: Are they doing what they
most enjoy? Are they tolerating anything? Is life easy? Are they going to be
financially independent within the next 15 years? Do they have what they most
want? We've discovered that, often, people need to expect more out of their
lives. A coach can help in this process.
a dependency be created between coach and client?
really. The client may "need" the coach in order to maximize an
opportunity or accelerate their growth, yet not be "dependent" on the
coach. Anyone who's up to something "needs" structure, advice, support
and a place to brag, so in that sense, the coach is necessary. But an emotional,
psychological dependency is not created. The coach works with people who are
just fine and strong enough on their own. Remember, we're not resolving issues
here. The coach is helping the client to create a better future: More success,
more money, and a higher quality of life.
I hire a coach just for a short-term, special project?
Some clients hire a coach to help them accomplish specific goals or projects.
Usually, however, the client keeps working with the coach after that because
there are even more interesting things to accomplish.
long must I commit if I start working with a coach?
coaches ask for a three to six month commitment but usually let you stop
immediately if coaching is not working for you right now. Very, very few
ask for a written agreement or contract. For the professional or corporate client, however, a signed agreement is simply good
does it cost to hire a coach?
coaches working with individuals charge about $200 to $500 per month for one
half-hour call per week. Executive coaches charge more and some clients work
with a coach for an hour or two a week. It all works out to about $100 to $150
per hour. Obviously, corporate coaching or programs is more, often running twice
that per hour or $1,000 to $10,000 per month.
is coaching different from consulting?
Therapy? Sports coaching? A best friend?
Coaching is a form of consulting. But the coach stays with the client to help
implement the new skills, changes and goals to make sure they really happen.
Coaching includes several principles from sports coaching, like teamwork, going
for the goal, being your best. But unlike sports coaching, most professional
coaching is not competition or win/loss based. We strengthen the client's skills
as compared with helping them beat the other team. It's win/win.
friend. A best friend is wonderful to have. But is your best friend a
professional who you will trust to advise you on the most important aspects of
your life and/or business? Have a best friend and a coach.
Therapy. Coaching is not therapy. Both use numerous skills
in common, such as active listening, reframing and empathy, which is precisely
why therapists are so well-suited to coaching.
difference between coaching and therapy has more to do with mindset than method.
While both coaching and therapy can help people make major life changes,
coaching liberates therapy from its pathology-based underpinnings and
focuses wholly on human strengths, positive passions and the nurturance of
We don't work on "issues" or get
into the past or deal much with understanding human behavior. We leave that up
to the client to know and figure out, while we help them move forward and set
personal and professional goals that will give them the life they really want.
The goal of a coaching relationship, by
contrast, is to help people tap into, and actualize, their deepest vision of who
they are. Rather than serving as healer, a coach acts as a facilitator for a
client's full flowering as a person — a kind of gardener of the spirit.